is this considered a cheese list?

I've never heard of Jasper Stone. Tawnee Stone, sure. But not Jasper. Is he her cousin or something?

You're killin' me, Smalls.

Ah, ok. I remember you rocking that avatar now.

my entire collection is
Alot of characters for archons/succubus etc
4-6 venoms
7 raiders
3 ravagers
1 razorwing
9 reavers
50ish warriors
30 wyches
10 incubi
12 harlequin
1 talos/cronos (not used in a long time)
2 jesters
2 seers
solitaire
4 harlequin bikes
2 of the crap harlequin skimmers
i do also have:
Wraith knight (only comes out in bigger games)
Wraith lord (only comes out in bigger games)

I know exactly what to make in order to table my opponent very quickly and have done which is why i tried to make some 'fun lists' with the harlequins in just cos i love the models.

I just wanted to see if other people considered that particular unit/army list cheesy which it seems i was correct in saying is it no way near a cheesey list

Your first post list is not even remotely OP or cheesy. Utterly ridiculous that anyone would say it is. You need some new gaming friends I'm afraid. Alternatively, show them how to beat it. That works for me. Gives me more of a challenge then too